Being a Mommy or Daddy is a huge job! We are responsible for training up our children in the way they should go… to be God-honoring, kind, loving, trustworthy, generous, patient, healthy, adventurous, careful, faithful, creative, smart, frugal, successful, clean, thankful, self-controlled, positive, joy-filled, responsible adults (to name a few). These are characteristics we have to not only figure out how to teach but also to be an example of!
I have always wanted to be a stay-at-home mom. Looking at the big picture I am so happy and blessed I “get” to stay home! In the smaller picture though – the day-to-day tasks of raising a 2.5 year old and a 9 month old – I don’t always have the same outlook. To be honest some days I’m just crabby! Is it my “terrific” two year old or my teething runny nosed fussy baby boy? These factors don’t help but they come with the job. Do you know how many times I’ve texted my mom, “my kids are driving me crazy today!” and its only 7am. It only takes one complaint to open up a floodgate of them.
Every failure and success I have are the same ones my children will very likely reflect… as I learned recently. Jeffrey was talking to crying baby Jack, “listen Jackie, it’s ok, it’s ok” (Aww what a sweet big brother)… then “LISTEN JACKIE!” Where do you think he heard yelling from? Yep, me. Moments like those feel like a mom fail! Now I know I’ve passed on the ‘gift’ of yelling and impatience. Sigh… this means my own bad attitude and complaining could pass on to them too!
My children may keep me tired, wipe boogers on my couch and accidentally pee on the bathroom floor for the umpteenth time but my unhappiness and discontent is not their fault. It’s mine. This crazy life is the “wonderful” one I couldn’t wait to experience as a young girl. These exhausting, crying, crabby, screaming, fighting, learning, growing, adorable, sweet, cuddly, hilarious, smart, perfectly created little boys are mine. They are the dreams I hoped would come to pass. And these long days are the ones I don’t want to pass me by. They are the ones I most want to cherish – to revel in.
All of us with young children will have many challenging days ahead but mixed in with all the training of children is all the loving we “get” to give. Not only through hugs and kisses but through the gifts we can give them by choosing to see the good and to be thankful for all the moments we have with them. It’s our job as Mommies and Daddies to be who we want them to be.
“So let’s not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t give up.” Galatians 6:9 NLT